She doesn’t settle for less than her soul deserves; she is brave and beautiful; tender and fierce; and when she sets her sights on something, she doesn’t stop dreaming until it’s true. – Mark Anthony
Growing up, my mom went to school for architecture and eventually became an architect. I witnessed firsthand as she sat at her drafting table, using crazy-looking tools like a proportional divider or architectural ruler to create designs. Sometimes it would be something simple as a landscape drawing. Other times, something more complex, like a 3D building cutout. No matter the design, it was always fascinating to know that she (and her fellow architects) was the brains behind Sure, construction has a lot to do with it, but before a building is constructed, it’s the architect’s vision that creates the blueprint for the restaurants we eat at, the houses we sleep in, and the schools we learn in.
My mom is no longer an architect, but as the new year hit, I got to thinking a lot about her old job, as it related to my goals over the years. In 2016, I launched the website; 2017 I added the shop and made my first television appearance (3 to be exact) and in 2018, I hosted my very first pop-up event and had six more events soon after. I created these goals for myself and made them to fruition. Sure, it was exhilarating, but reflecting over the last couple of years, I knew I could be more efficient and successful in 2019, with an actual blueprint.
“Why a blueprint?”, You ask? Trust me, I get it. I’m a Sagittarius; we don’t plan shit…we do everything off impulse and at the very last minute. However, as a thirty-something, single female (and kidless), entrepreneur, with a 9-5, I know as content as I am with spending time with my nieces and nephews, then dropping them off, each sell I make, and having the entire bed to myself, I can’t achieve Joanna Gaines goals by just winging it. I’m the architect of my life, and I know, just like Joe, I want a family (maybe not five kids), a big ass ranch somewhere in the boonies, while running my multiple businesses. So this will take some (more like A LOT, A LOT) brainstorming, planning, goal setting, and hard fucking work.
I know you’re probably wondering, “How can I create my very own blueprint?”. It’s pretty easy, check out my tips below:
Think About What You Want – Put down your phone, turn off Game of Thrones and tell your friends “Another time.” I know I’m sounding like a mom right now, but remember, there’s no love like a mother’s love, so I’m telling you this for your own good. You have to dedicate time to think about what it is that you want out of this life. And because work doesn’t have to be all work, no fun, put some music on that will help you focus, pour yourself a glass of wine (don’t overdo it), whatever it takes.
Write it Down – So by now, we know you want to get that Oprah money in 2019, but how do you plan on achieving such a huge goal? By breaking the big goals down into smaller ones, that’s how. I also believe there’s great power in writing things down. So get yourself a planner or To-Do list and write down what you can do this month to work towards your dream. Maybe it might be something like, a better work-life balance or starting a blog. Then, with each week, write down what you can do within that week, like compiling a list of blog names. Lastly, take your weekly goals and spread them out over the week, so you have something to accomplish each day. By doing this, this will help you make the steps each day, to get closer to your dream.
Get an Accountability Partner – I’m fortunate enough to have sisters who are also entrepreneurs and married with kids. We link up from time to time to discuss what projects we’re working on, to vent about things that aren’t going well and throw ideas around for the future. I can’t tell you how beneficial our meetups are for each one of us. Not only are we inspired, but we have each other to put a little fire under our asses when we’re slacking. An accountability partner is essential for the growth of your vision. This person will have you keep track and sight of your goals when you’re feeling stuck, stagnant and just lazy (trust, there will be days like this). The cool thing about it is, you don’t have to meet every week, hell, you don’t have to meet at all. A simple phone call or email for a set time will suffice.
Reflect – Don’t wait until the end of the year to reflect on your goals. Do it now! Go back over your To-Do list and pat yourself on the back for everything you have accomplished, but don’t forget about the things that you still need to complete. I usually look at my list at the end of the day, and if there’s anything I wasn’t able to do that day, I roll over to the next day or when I have the time available. Sometimes when I knock out things earlier than expected, this allows more personal time or time to handle tasks from the next day. Either way, I’m able to stay on course with the initial plan.
Remember, whatever you want to do, whether it’s being a stay-at-home-mom or businesswoman, you have the power to create that life for yourself. Just takes some work. And before you go, if you haven’t purchased a planner for the present year and don’t have a to-do list, please feel free download this one. This list provides a section for daily, weekly and monthly goals.
Here’s to an overflow of love, health, happiness and prosperity in 2019.